"Exercise makes you loose weight just the same as dieting. Ill-logic to discus one without the other. Big is beautiful but there is a stage where it's not healthy. And It's not "fat shaming" to put a value on health."
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| ^Typical VV girl.^ |
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| ^Me 2 weeks into motherhood.^ |
The sad thing is if I had been a typical VV girl chances are my comments of concern and care would have been seen in the context it was meant and not be seen as an attack. Instead my comment was deleted and I got the instant "OMG U SKINNY BIAAATCH" banhammer of doom.
"Hate to be the one to say it, but when a fat girl discriminates against a slim girl because the slim girl advocates a healthy lifestyle and healthy body image, that's not healthy body image; that's a fat chick searching desperately for outside validation. Woman of all ages and sizes, please, please, LEARN THE DIFFERENCE!" (Thanks to a friend for this quote!)
At the end of the day "be how you like as long as you are healthy", is some of the best advice anybody can give you. If you wander into the realms of body extremes and look like this:You have a problem, NOT a lifestyle.
And you should expect people to call you up on it, sometimes it's not even to be bitchy, in fact more times than you know it's because they care.
Obesity and Anorexia are not beautiful, not healthy, and certainly nothing to be proud of.
Haha I love it! Some of those quotes are remarkably familiar :-P
ReplyDeleteBut yes, absolutely right! There's a big difference between being fat and being unhealthy; I've recently discovered many areas of the gym that my fitness-freak boyfriend struggles in that my size 18 ass can excel in without breaking a sweat. Similarly, there's a big difference between body acceptance and self love (what VV and groups like it pimp) and a realistic view of yourself. Yes, you can be fat and love yourself. Yes, you can be unhealthy and love yourself. And yes, you can love yourself and want to change yourself for the better. Loving yourself doesn't give you a free pass to defend your short comings.
We encourage abused women to leave the abusive men they love, we encourage drug addicts to give up the substances they love...why is it unreasonable to express the view that unhealthily sized people should consider parting ways with the fat they love?
That said, I don't actually care one way or the other. You can eat yourself to death as far as I'm concerned, or starve yourself in the hopes of some day being light enough to float to heaven on a single helium balloon (the goal of one pro-Ana girl I've spoken to), but ultimately if someone shoves an opinion down my throat I'll shove one right back at 'em!